You're electric in some rooms and invisible in others. You've probably blamed your personality.
It isn't your personality. It's whether attention is taken or given — and which one you're built for.
A self-reflection tool based on the Taken or Given framework — not a validated psychological assessment or a diagnosis.
the cold room
the given floor
The book's two questions — a contested room and a granted one — asked seven ways
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Nothing you answer leaves your phone — results are computed on this page and saved only in your browser.
…and if social situations bring real distress no matter how the floor arrives, that's worth talking about with a professional — this page is a lens, not a diagnosis.
First — pick one room
You never type a whole person. You type a person in a domain.
Answer for one part of your life only. You'll get to run your other rooms after — many people are a different type in each.